For
a centerpiece, don't use something over powering and so big that
guests can't see each other when at the table. Put a tray or plate
with a few votive candles in the center of the table. Floating
candles are always an added touch as well. You can also tint the
water that you use for floating candles. Use a couple drops of
food coloring and add the candles. Mirrors are always a good centerpiece.
A square or round mirror with a candle (in a votive holder) in
the center.
If
you don't like candles, put a bowl with ornaments in the center
- or fill the bowl with glass marbles and stones. Be creative.
You can find most everything you'll need in your house.
Have
quiet music playing in the back ground during dinner. It's a nice
added touch, but not distracting. Have a couple scented candles
burning off to the side - so their is a light fragrance in the
rooms. You will find most people notice the smell of a place immediately
- and you don't want it to be unpleasant.
Another
thing to do is have 'mood lighting'. Don't have every light on
in the house if it makes it too bright. Just turn on some lamps
or torchieres and light some candles. Lighting, depending on too
bright or just right, will affect a person's attitude.
Instead
of throwing all the guests coats on the bed - clear out the coat
closet and place your things some where your guests won't be.
Use the coat closet to hang their coats up. That way they don't
have to wait for someone to get their coat if they need to leave
quickly.
Make
sure all the clutter is picked up. Don't leave toys or dog bones
laying all over. Put away all your mail and piles of paper you
always have on your table. Remove anything that is a distraction
to your guests.
Always
greet each guest personally. Walk over and say hi and acknowledge
their presence. Don't just yell to them from across the room.
Let them know you appreciate them coming. And always thank them
when they leave. Be a good host/hostess - so they'll want to come
back again.
It
doesn't take much to have a successful evening with friends or
family. Prepare ahead of time and know that most of these things
you can put away when your guests leave and bring them back out
the next time around. It also gives the guests a feeling of being
somewhere else - and not just at your house. Don't over extend
yourself. Don't go into debt to do this. Just have fun and do
what you can. The most important thing is to always make it special.