With
all of the attention that syndromes and disorders are receiving these
days (ADD, PMDD, chronic fatigue) I thought that we ought to take
a few moments to discuss one of the most crippling and least-recognized
conditions out there -- VTS.
VTS (Vacation Transition Syndrome) is the sense of inertia and lethargy
-- even depression -- that you experience upon COMING HOME from a
really fabulous vacation, as you try to get your sorry self in gear
and return to the responsibilities and routine of ordinary DAILY LIFE.
We thought about hosting a telethon to raise money, but no one was
willing to sit at a phone all day on public television. So I decided
to just offer a few helpful suggestions for getting back into the
swing of things when you return from your travels.
TAKE MORE VACATIONS
This may sound like strange advice -- especially when we are talking
about how badly returning from a vacation can throw you off track.
But have you ever stopped to think about why vacations are such a
shock to the system? It's because we are UNACCUSTOMED to them. The
first sign that my new organizing clients are in real danger is when
they tell me they haven't taken a vacation in 4 years. There is something
really wrong with that!
We must have breaks in our lives -- we need times when we walk away
from the daily grind, spend some time RE-ENERGIZING, and come back
more refreshed than before. But when you wait until you have hit a
wall to take that break, it almost does more harm than good. Going
from one extreme (total immersion in work and stress and activity)
to another (complete isolation from every aspect of real life) isn't
relaxing. In fact, it can cause whiplash, if you aren't careful.
The only way to reverse this trend is to make vacations more a part
of daily life instead of an ESCAPE from daily life. Play hooky and
take the afternoon off every once in a while. Plan small weekend getaways
or DAY TRIPS at least once a month. Instead of using all of your vacation
on one killer trip, spread it over several smaller excursions spaced
evenly throughout the year. Teach your body that vacation is just
another part of your regular routine, and it won't react like a white
cell attacking a foreign invader when you do allow yourself to take
a break.
BUILD IN A CUSHION
When I first started taking vacations on my own -- I guess this would
have been during college -- I wanted to make the trip last as LONG
as it possibly could. So I would head out right after classes finished
for the day (on whatever day I planned to leave) and not return until
midnight the night before I had to be back for an 8AM exam. That's
okay when you have no responsibilities outside of attending school,
but acting like that when you have a job and a family is crazy!
You can reduce a great deal of the stress associated with coming back
from a vacation by building in a little BREATHING ROOM on either side
of your trip. If you are planning to leave for your trip on Friday,
plan to take Thursday afternoon off to tie up any LOOSE ENDS before
you head out. Make your phone calls, pay your bills, straighten up
the house, clean out the refrigerator, do the dishes, and pick up
any last-minute travel supplies you might have forgotten. You will
thank yourself when you return home -- there's nothing worse than
coming back to a house that is a mess and a huge pile of "to-do's"
that have been sitting there waiting for you all week.
Then do the same thing on the return side. If you are coming back
on Saturday, leave Sunday free to RELAX and settle back into your
daily routine. Whenever possible, I plan my trips so I leave in the
afternoon (giving me all morning to finish up any last-minute errands)
and return on a Saturday or in the morning (so I have time to chill
before re-entering my life). Just that little bit of SPACE makes a
huge difference in my state of mind.
DON'T OVERDO THE BLITZKRIEG VACATIONS
Our society's obsession with speed -- and our desire to cram as much
into 24 hours as we possibly can -- has taken its toll on our vacations.
Vacation used to mean going somewhere, not doing much (except relaxing)
while you were there, and then returning home. But now, for many people,
vacations are just another opportunity to see HOW MUCH you can accomplish.
We actually create "to-do" lists for our holidays -- and the goal
is no longer to rest, but to cross off as many items on that list
as possible. We wear ourselves out trying to stick to a schedule that
would make a convention planner have a stroke. No wonder we are exhausted
when we return home. It wasn't a vacation at all, just a slightly
different form of WORK! I call these kinds of trips BLITZKRIEG VACATIONS
-- it's more like going into battle than taking a break.
And I am not picking on those of you who love to pack your vacations
full -- I'm a veteran Blitzkrieg vacationer myself. But I ALTERNATE
the action-packed vacations with the "slacking" ones to give my travel
a little balance. We take one trip where we want to see everything
in sight -- then the next one involves sitting on a beach or relaxing
in the mountains. As you plan each trip, just ask yourself what you
WANT from this vacation and if this kind of trip will help you achieve
that goal. If you are looking for stimulation and new experiences,
then "blitzkrieg" away! But if you are trying to relax, unwind, and
recuperate, you might want a vacation without a strict AGENDA, leaving
lots of free time and space to do whatever feels right at that moment..
Remember that you have the power to structure your vacations in any
way that you wish.
VACATIONING AT HOME
I have also fallen prey to the idea that it isn't a vacation unless
you go OUT OF TOWN. I always felt that I was "wasting" my three-day
weekends if I didn't have to pack a suitcase. And consequently, I
took long, stressful trips that I really didn't feel like taking because
I didn't want to miss the opportunity for a vacation. But I've realized
recently that a vacation is whatever you want it to be. Sometimes,
the best vacation you could ever take doesn't require any TRAVEL at
all.
Think about all the things you might like to do around the house or
in your home town, if only you had the TIME. If you plan to stay put
for your next vacation, you will have plenty of time. During one "at
home" vacation, we visited our local botanical gardens and zoo for
the first time, had a picnic in the park, spent time with a friend
who was passing through town, and spent one lazy morning reading in
bed until lunch. I also found the time to work on a chair that I had
been wanting to refinish, try my hand at charcoal drawing, and clean
out my clothes closet. Now, some people would say, "The first part
sounded okay, but I don't want to spend my days off cleaning out closets
and stripping furniture." Fine -- no one said you had to. The point
is, it's your vacation. Spend it doing things that you enjoy -- and
some of those things might be waiting for you right in your own home.
GET YOUR ENVIRONMENT IN ORDER
One of the quickest ways to get settled back in after a trip is to
get your physical space in order -- what I like to call NESTING. A
lot of the stress we feel stepping back into our lives again is caused
by the disorder we see around us when we walk in the front door. You
look at that stack of unopened mail, the pile of suitcases by the
door, and the blinking light on your answering machine -- and feel
OVERWHELMED. What happened to the tidy home you grew accustomed to?
Will it stay this way forever? Will you still be tripping over luggage
and piles of laundry a month from now? You will if you don't do something
about it -- the sooner the better!
So UNPACK your suitcase, do laundry, put your clothes away, take your
film to be developed, and put your souvenirs on a shelf. Restock your
pantry and refrigerator. Go through your mail, return any phone calls
that came in while you were gone, put out those fires that have cropped
up. Make LISTS of things that you need take care of, both for home
and work. Then, sit back and relax, knowing that all is right in the
world!
HAVE A PLAN
Have you ever returned from a trip, looked around your home or office,
and been just completely dumbfounded about what you should do next?
You know you've got work to do, but you can't seem to pinpoint exactly
where to start. You might wander around a bit, picking up this piece
of paper or that, trying to remember all of the "to-do's" that you
had hanging over your head before you left. But it's all just flown
right out of your brain -- at least, that's how it feels!
It's definitely much easier to get back into your normal routine if
you have a ROADMAP to follow -- and it's best if you start laying
out your route before you leave town. Sit down with a pen and a pad
of paper, and empty your head -- list all of the UNFINISHED WORK that
will be waiting for you when you return. Keep your pad nearby as you
prepare for your trip, making note of all the loose ends that you
didn't have a chance to tie up before departure -- phone calls to
be made, letters to send, errands to run, whatever normally fills
your day. Then, when you return from your trip, add any new items
that have cropped up during your absence. Go through your mail, voice
messages, and e-mail, making note of any issues that require your
attention. Finally, put your list in order of PRIORITY, with the most
urgent items at the top. When you do get to work, you can just start
at the top of the list and work your way down.
EASE BACK INTO YOUR ROUTINE
There is no reason to shock your system with a full-out assault the
moment you get home from a long vacation. Your brain probably isn't
ready to tackle the most CHALLENGING project on your list right away
-- so give yourself a break. Many times, when I return from a trip,
I'm more in the mood to "putter" around the house -- cleaning, organizing,
repairing, getting rid of clutter, maybe running a few errands --
than I am to dig right back into my business. So, for the first day
or so, that's exactly what I do. I get a lot of small household chores
taken care of -- things that need to be done but always seem to get
shoved to the bottom of my list -- I get a sense of having been PRODUCTIVE
(so important in our society!), and I have eased myself back into
a working routine. The next day, I'm ready to get back to the hard
stuff.
You might say, "Well, that's great for you -- you're self-employed.
I have a job to go to." Even if you can't stay home and putter around
the house, you can make a gentle transition back into your daily routine.
On your first day back, do an "at-work" version of HOUSEKEEPING --
check your e-mails, return phone calls, sort through the piles of
paper on your desk, and get your office in order. Then tackle that
big report or the important project the next day. You will find that
you are better able to focus and more effective than if you had tried
to force yourself to jump back in with both feet right away.
GIVE YOURSELF SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO
Sometimes, the idea of coming back to the same old grind, stuck in
the same old routine, doing the same old stuff that you were doing
before you left is just more than you can bear. MONOTONY is enough
to kill anyone's motivation -- especially after you've just been to
exotic lands doing adventurous things (visiting Cleveland for a wedding
may not seem exotic, but at least it's a change from the norm!) So
why not plan a little something special for your return?
You might decide to start a NEW PROJECT when you get home -- something
you've been wanting to do but haven't seemed to find the time for.
Paint the kitchen, begin an exercise program, or start working on
that novel. Or plan a fun event to celebrate your return -- dinner
with friends, a trip to the zoo, a day at a spa. Just that tiny bit
of self-care can make all the difference between ending your trip
on an upbeat note, or suffering from POST-TRAVEL DEPRESSION (another
pervasive but little-recognized syndrome!)
Ramona
Creel is the founder of OnlineOrganizing.com
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